I came across this article/post from Aaron and I can’t agree more (from the men’s point of view)
When I first became a pregger, I have totally no idea how much I will
change, both physically and emotionally. How much I wish my husband could
understand those changes that I am going through. After all, pregnancy is a
journey that we should be enjoyed together.
Here are the 13 Things I Wish My Husband Would Know During My Pregnancy
1. When I Said “I’m Hungry”, I Seriously Mean It.
I know that I always tell you that I’m hungry but I had never eaten as much
as I meant to. This is because I felt a sudden emptiness in my tummy and Baby
Bump is kicking rigorously in resistant of hunger. I can never fall asleep with
an empty stomach and a kicking baby inside me. I need food to calm Baby Bump
down so that I can have a good night rest. On the other hand I can’t take in too
much otherwise I can’t fall asleep.
So please be my personal barista and make me a half cup of
warm mummy’s milk without asking or telling me to wait till you are done
‘tapping-pointlessly’ at the dunno-what-war-game. This is going to send me to
my emotional edge.
2. Thanks But No Thanks For Laughing At My Changing Body
I am going through a very tough emotional war of having to accept
the changes that is happening to my almost perfect body. The darkening of my
nippy is the last thing that I ever expect from pregnancy. It is almost like
getting a scar on my face! So stop giving me those sinister smiles.
All preggers gained weight and I am lucky to have gained only a minimum of less
than 12kg. But that had already triggered me enough because I have extra
cellulite all over my body. I understand that all these are the important food
bank for Baby Bump but it strikes me like a thunder. So please stop telling me
that I look cute because I know I looked FAT and proportionally not right.
Also all preggers walk like-one-kind, like a penguin going, from left to
right. This is super normal to cater for the additional weight that I had
gained in the past 9 months! Please do not imitate the way I am walking because
I was just trying to protect my spine.
3. Being Forgetful Is Not Pregger’s Excuses
When I apologize
for forgetting something important, that’s because I really did and it’s not an
excuse. Seriously, I never believe this until I am a pregger myself. Thanks to
Baby Bump for enjoying my limited supply of fish oil (I hated fish).
Now that I
am taking extra fish oil supplement, I hope I can be less forgetful so that I
can always remind you to do what I had asked you to do but you had forgotten.
4. No Silly Jokes
Thanks for trying to be funny and at times trying to test my limits. I can’t
control my own emotion although I really tried to. I do not know why I felt so
grumpy sometimes. If you do notice that, I’ll appreciate if you could remind me
so that I’ll try to have more control over myself. Never try to test my limit
by going against my will when I am at that state because I can be a terrible
water bomb.
Take me out if I ever look grumpy because most of the times I am just bored-to-grumpiness. If I am grumpy, bored and starting to do house chores, I will start to feel super sorry for myself. So, just be a little bit more sensitive.
5. Goodbye Sex
Oh, please do not remind me how sad it is to have not enjoy it like it used to
be. Listen to me carefully -- you're not the only one feeling that way. I am
lucky not to have gone through the miserable first trimester like most preggers
do and things are kinda ‘normal’ back then.
Please do not expect the same for
the next pregnancy or during the second trimester. My body changes and it is
not like something that I wanted. Please take some time to explore with me and
prepare me emotionally. Never ever tell me how sad your life is because I would
think that you need sex so bad that you may cheat on me (though I know is
unlikely)
6. Yes, my pairs are bigger; no, you can't touch them.
Yes, thanks to Baby Bump that I felt like a men-magazine-super-model. And yes
it does look very attractive and you can’t resist touching them. Seriously,
what do you think that my boobs just get bigger in months? I had been through the
time when my pairs hurt like mad! It was swollen because of the rush of
hormone. It feels like being pinched or slapped when you touch it. And it feels
all different after that. My pairs don’t feel like a sex-appeal anymore but
more of food factory for Baby Bump.
Oh, and please do not laugh at my ‘oversize-bra’
because I was just trying to save some cash from having to buy another full
package of undies when the factories start its production.
7. I Need More Pillows For Support
Sleeping on my back is like sleeping with a 10kg rice bag on my tummy. My back
is strained while resting. To switch to side sleeping is even more challenging.
Is not that I love to have the big bolster in the middle of the bed; I need it
to support my back while I am sleeping sideways.
I would love to have you
hugging me to sleep but most likely I am going to heat you up and you are going
to snored right into my ear. So please bear with the middle-bolster although I
really love to hug it to sleep sometimes but I can’t because of Baby Bump.
8. I Don’t Mind Some Extra Care
Seriously, I am just a weak woman who needs the extra care and protection
from her man. I am not sure about others but I sure can do with more care and
love. A morning and good night kiss, a hug at no particular time and some
strong arms. With the new Bump, I can barely bend down to pick up stuffs on the
floor. I need to open up my feet real wide to reduce the gravity point and to stabilize
myself before bending down just to pick up the piece of dust (not a very good
sight). Forget about heavy stuffs which preggers are not supposed to carry.
I
do not asked to be treated like a queen or princess but I appreciate a little
help when I really need some.
9. Pregnant women are lazy (If that’s what you think)
I might not be doing as much house chores as I used to do. That’s because my
back almost felt like breaking into half after sweeping the floor. I tried to
iron the piled up working attires thinking how tired it can be (though I hated
ironing clothes) and I was left again with aching back. I opt to hired hourly
maid to do the house chores because I can’t do it myself not because I am lazy.
When I asked for help to do the laundry, I am not being lazy because it’s
difficult to bend down and carry the load downstairs. I will still fold the
clean laundry on the floor though I am having some hard time bending over and
getting up later.
10. Please Drive Extra Careful
I hope
you could drive with extra care whenever I am on the passenger seat. I
appreciate if you could use the brake more gently, no unnecessary sudden brake because
that does not only scared the hell out of me, it risk hurting Baby Bump with
the safety felt.
The same goes to hump. Please just imagine that you are
driving a super sport car when you are getting over the hump. Drive through it
smoothly (you can even do the S-Thingy) but not like a racing cow so that I do not felt that Baby Bump is
going to drop out (although I knew it won’t).
11. A Small Gifts
I know it
is fun and exciting to go for baby shopping but I get jealous when all the
attentions go to Baby Bump. A small gifts for me and unrelated to pregnancy
would be nice to remind me that I am your lover not only your baby’s
mother-to-be.
12. Spend Some Quality Time
I
appreciate some quality time spent together (just the two of us) other
than having dinner or shopping for Baby Bumps. I want to be reminded that I
have a lover and not a dad-to-be. Pre-planned some activities that we can do
together although I knew there’s nothing much left for a pregger to do. A home movie
session or even a brisk walk at the lakeside is as good as an expensive romantic dinner. Do
not ask me where I want to go or what to do, that’s why I mentioned ‘pre-planned’.
I would
be more than happy if you could bring me to some cosy places to hang out so
that I get some good reasons to dress up. The one thing that I wish I could do
more is to look good in my glowing pregnancy skin.
Oh yes, we should also try to stop looking at our own fb wall before bedtime. It's a waste of time scrolling over the feeds that we had looked into over 10 times in the day. That's a reminder for both of us.
13. Handle Me With Care
Not particularly about me but more
of Baby Bump. With the increasing waistline I can’t gauge the distance between
me and other objects. I keep hitting Baby Bump at tables and chairs which I felt
super guilty later. I tried to avoid places with lots of
running kids or even ladies with big hard handbags who walk like they own the
street. I am so worried if something or someone hit Baby Bump. So please
protect me and do not do stupid stunts like pretending to sit on my lap. Don’t even
try to move/maneuver me around on the bed because I just can’t.
