I-AM-LOST
This post was written somewhere in the early of 2019 when I was feeling really lost in life. Now that it is 2020 and I am more than happy to say that I had conquer or thrash most if not all of it. At least I had taken action rather than just sitting there whining.
Here it goes...
I-AM-LOST
So, the mid
30 crisis is true.
The feeling
of loss is so strong that i don’t know where I should start talking about.
Career
I had been in the same industry for some 12 glorious years and now I am
sitting here wondering if I am in the correct path? Is this what I want? Where
is this going to lead me to? What do I get at the end of my career life?
I probably
won’t go any further if I continue sitting here doing my 9-6 job without even
checking what the outside can offer. I would probably just work till I
die because I may as well caught up in the Rat-Race that I finally understand.
If I work hard/smart enough and be part of the higher management, then perhaps I can
work with more glamour but still, at the end of my career, I am left with
nothing. Okay, maybe some cash if I had save enough but what if I stupidly get
myself into rat-race then perhaps i really have to work till I die. In the end,
position in the company is just a position and money is still what I needed to
survive.
I do not
find much satisfaction from work. At times I can be very contented with
everything the company is able to provides me. Thing turn around when I felt that no one really appreciates what I had done or worst still being challenged on my compatibility. I really felt that I
should just leave and let them do my monkey job.
I find
myself easily agitated and also being over-protective of my work. I
deserve some respect for my work. There are times when I find myself crying
over work matter. I find myself felling bad
over the weekend and couldn’t focus on work because I was so sad and depressed
over what other people feedback about me because it was not true. I am
emotionally drained.
Despite all
these complications, deep down inside I knew I can’t be a fulltime housewife. Staying
home with kids and doing house chores is just not me. I still prefer to
work only if I only I can work for leisure and not money. (which is way too impossible because i cant survive without my job. Stupid rat-race)
Yes,
perhaps I should start looking for alternative job that goes parallel with my 9-6
job. I have the deepest self-scrutiny in my life for an hour trying really hard
to list down what else I can do or what other skills I possess. I always thought that I am somebody but when I realised that i really have NOTHING special to shout about, my self-doubt is so great that I want to hide myself away. I
can’t do music not even remembering song names or artist names. My art and baking
skills are for leisure and barely go anywhere. I am not an outspoken person
hence I don’t think sales is a good option though. I am bad at memorizing
people name and faces which is a big big minus point.
Everything seems so
negative.
I enrolled
myself right-away into cake decorating workshop that I dreaded to try. If I
want to find out what else I can do, I need to start doing it first. I met new
people, learn some new skills and widen my view on what I can /cannot do.
I pick up
calligraphy earlier this year (self-thought) as part of my new year resolution.
Is more for leisure again and all I could say that it really helps in releasing
some stress.
If I were
to pick up just one skill that I am really good at is soap making. Yes, i had been making soap for self use for more than 2 years now. Had always thought it would be easy to start a small business until I realised that I am lack of self-confident.
Being a Parent
I guess the
only thing that I can be really proud of now is my son. I don’t know why but it
just seems so satisfied to see him grow, learning new stuffs, taking up new
challenges.
But I am a failed mum.
I can’t seem to control my boy. I can’t take
it when he’s being punished or being sounded by others. I am not sure what is
best for him. To be frank, except for bringing him to this world and giving him
proper living, I just take care of him during the weekend. Worst still, I don’t
even bother to cook for him and sometimes he will just skip a meal or two over
the weekend. Yes, I could provide him with living essential (mostly) but when
it comes to behavior development, learning, EQ development, etc, I just don’t
know where to start.
Am I
teaching him the correct things? How can I guide him when I myself is loss?
Look
This had become more of a concern. When your skin start to look dull (which I
finally understand what dull mean) or pale or when you found out from the car
mirror that your cheeks are indeed sagging or when you notice those stubborn
fine lines around your eyes being accentuated after make-up or maybe the
additional freckles that came out of nowhere. These are the times that struck
me like hell.
What had happened to me? Where is my young and radiant skin?
I used to
be so proud of my post delivery body where I almost look like my old self 7 days after
delivery. Nowadays I can get fat without much difficulty. Despite still
controllable, I think I failed big time being my own fashion advisor. My
wardrobe is mostly boring black working attire because i try to look formal for work. Every casual
outing or dinner, I struggle to put up nicer clothes because it is all either too revealing, too body-fitting or too-short. I can't seems to find my own style. Kent would always want to influence my attire and ask for more t-shirt. I really hated t-shirt and what's more polo-T. I hated those but I have most of it because i-don't-know-why.
Oh and did I mention also about the limited amount of shoes and handbags I have. I almost survived with A multi-purpose handbag, 2 pairs of heels and one ugly but comfortable health shoe.
Oh and did I mention also about the limited amount of shoes and handbags I have. I almost survived with A multi-purpose handbag, 2 pairs of heels and one ugly but comfortable health shoe.
The only
thing that doesn’t change much is my hairstyle and this doesn’t seems right
too. Colour, Curl, Straighten, long, short - I had tried it all but i still love my natural hair best.
Friends
Social
media is my biggest enemy because I am hooked at looking how good other people
life is. I know, those are the only few second of happiness of the whole
day/week but still..i wish i was there.
WHY? Because I am suffering from mid life crisis…duh.
Travelling, High-Tea-ing, Cafe hopping, Shopping, etc etc...I can be one of them. I took photos of my moments but those photos just suck. It doesn't look like what i saw on Instagram. Same place, same food but uglier photos!
Don't even dare to do selfies because i look so odd that i pity myself.
Then again, where are my friends? Why do i always felt so out-of-topic. Why am i the odd one? Why am I the last person people may think of? Why can't i be the first choice? Why am i always resemblance of someone else image? I am who I am so please stop comparing me to others!
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WHY? Because I am suffering from mid life crisis…duh.
Travelling, High-Tea-ing, Cafe hopping, Shopping, etc etc...I can be one of them. I took photos of my moments but those photos just suck. It doesn't look like what i saw on Instagram. Same place, same food but uglier photos!
Don't even dare to do selfies because i look so odd that i pity myself.
Then again, where are my friends? Why do i always felt so out-of-topic. Why am i the odd one? Why am I the last person people may think of? Why can't i be the first choice? Why am i always resemblance of someone else image? I am who I am so please stop comparing me to others!
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